Personal essays and reflections on growth, identity, healing, and evolution. Becoming is the in between space where clarity hasn’t arrived yet, but truth already has.
There is a subtle pressure to explain yourself as you change. To update people. To make your decisions make sense to others. To provide context so no one feels confused by who you’re becoming. It shows up in small ways. Explaining why you’re not available the same way anymore.Explaining why your priorities have shifted.Explaining why…
There’s a version of you that got you here. She was necessary, she was sharp, she was alert in ways you didn’t even realize at the time. She knew how to:• push through• figure it out• keep going even when it didn’t feel good She carried you through seasons that required survival and because of…
Every time you over explain your standards, you dilute them. Not because your reasons are invalid, but because standards do not require persuasion. Somewhere along the way, many women learned that boundaries must be justified to be accepted. That saying no is rude unless softened. That pricing is bold unless defended. That availability is generous…
Growth does not require an audience, becoming does not require commentary, and evolution does not require explanation. Somewhere along the way, many women were taught that growth should be shared in real time. That if you are changing, shifting, building, healing, or expanding, you should keep everyone informed. Update them. Reassure them. Bring them along. …
There’s a quiet panic many women carry that rarely gets named. It shows up when you scroll. When someone younger announces a milestone. When your life doesn’t look the way you thought it would by now. It sounds like: I should be further along. But what if you’re not behind at all? What if you’re…